I don't really care if Revan is male or female. In the beginning I've always believed the character to be female, but then there came a confirmation that Revan is male, the Exile is female. I go by whatever is canon, but it is a bit strange cause imo I thought Revan had a bit of a female figure when they showed like flashbacks in the armor. But maybe I was just reading into things because at that time, like I said, I believed Revan to be female. Maybe he's just smaller compared to Malak who is quite tall and stronger built compared to Revan.
As for the romances, I think they are a bit irrelivent. A male Revan imo, makes as much sense in the story as a female when it comes to the romances. In fact since Bastilla is female, I think it's more interesting that Revan is male. But that's just me.
how? Neither gender made more sense than the other. the difference was insignificant. The only difference was in loveinterest and is that what this genderwar is about? In that case the genderwar is more redundant than I belived possible.